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Graham is 4 1/2 months old!

Hello readers! I hope you all are doing well. Thank you for continuing to follow along, even though I haven’t had much time to read/comment/write lately. I am going to catch up with you all soon. Would you mind sharing something in my comments – if anything important, exciting, or sad has happened. Or just something totally random or holiday-related. Whatever you would like! I’d love to hear from you as always! Wishing you all a safe and happy holiday season with miracles!!

Things are going really well! We have a good routine going. Andy and I work together. Everything keeps getting easier. Plus, Graham’s been sleeping through the night for awhile (in his crib)! What a good boy! Graham is laughing/giggling, rolling over, scooting around in his crib and pack n play, and “talking” a lot more – but not quite babbling yet. He is so smart and getting mobile! I’m not ready for such a mobile baby! :-)

Graham just had his first tiny taste of baby food – sweet potatoes! I know it’s early, but I’ve done my research and spoken to the pediatrician. I’m not up for a debate on the subject. He did a great job eating it! His face was priceless with the first taste. He looked disgusted! Haha!! But then he seemed to love it! I don’t think we’ll be offering much yet, just a few bites here and there. And of course we will wait a week or more before introducing anything new. He’s been taking rice cereal in his bottle for about a month now. It’s good for his reflux and also keeps him fuller and calmer between feedings.

We had a nice Thanksgiving and are now looking forward to Christmas!! This time last year, I was just getting my BFP, betas, and first ultrasounds with Graham! It was an exciting and scary time, but our take home baby was finally brought to us! So much can change in a short time!

My previous cycle was 29 days, and I think I ovulated. This cycle, I have lost track of what cycle day I’m on, but I’m sure I only have about a week or so left. We BD, but I have no idea when or if I O’d. Still just going with the flow, but kinda trying naturally. Not expecting anything to happen. I’m thinking about going for a check up at my old RE’s office sometime around the beginning of the new year. I’m curious and want to get my basic labs checked, and maybe an ultrasound to check for cysts. Then we might re-evaluate trying a little harder. My PMS symptoms and AFs have been HORRIBLE, so that’s another reason I’d like to get some basic testing done.

Graham's stocking this year!

Graham’s stocking this year!

Graham's first ornament!

Graham’s first ornament!

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Guest Blog: Dr. Kwak-Kim success story and advocate!

I was contacted by a lovely lady who recently gave birth to a healthy baby girl! I love this letter she has written to her doctor.

Dear Dr. Erickson,

I thankfully gave birth last week to a healthy baby after an all natural and uneventful pregnancy. I am writing you this letter because exactly a year ago, after my second miscarriage, you told me I could not sustain a pregnancy without IVF. You said my chances of sustaining a natural pregnancy are next to none. These were very harsh words from you but they did not prevent me from looking for other doctors. The only reason you gave me for my chemical pregnancies was I had low-quality eggs. You also said I should consider donor eggs because of poor ovarian reserve.

I went to Chicago and had a consultation with Dr Joanne Kwak-Kim, Reproductive Immunologist. She had me do blood work and discovered that my thyroid function was not optimal, I had a positive ANA and my NK Cells count was elevated. She put me on low-dose aspirin. I started seeing an endocrinologist who put me on Levoxyl to improve my thyroid hormone levels.

After two months on the Levoxyl, I became pregnant. Dr Kwak-Kim put me on progesterone supplement, calcium and Vitamin D. Here I am now, nine months later, gratefully holding a healthy baby conceived naturally.

I hope this letter will encourage you to at least order further testing for your patients before having them pay for IVF. I know that is how you make money but your patients deserve a choice and testing to diagnose the real cause of their infertility. IVF is not the only solution and REs should at least explore all the possibilities before throwing it on the table.

I am actively advocating further testing before IVF with all the infertile women I encounter online. I also wanted to make sure I inform you about my situation. I am making this an open letter and sending it to other REs as well.

Respectfully,

K.

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I have a guest blog I’ve been meaning to post, so I promise to share it soon. She’s another Dr. Kwak-Kim success story, as well as an advocate. You won’t want to miss the letter she wrote to her previous RE, who diminished her hopes of achieving a successful pregnancy. He was wrong!! If you would like to share a post, please email me @ Baby4Lisa(at)gmail(dot)com. It can be anything uplifting or inspiring about infertility, adoption, surrogacy, pregnancy, childbirth, or motherhood.

Graham will be 4 months old in about a week! He is such a happy, alert, curious, playful little guy. We’ve seen a big change over the past few weeks. I can tell his tummy problems don’t bother him as much. It makes me feel so good to see him so happy! Graham is a great sleeper, too. Every morning, I wake up before him and can’t wait for him to wake up! He rarely cries anymore for me to come and get him. I tend to find him munching on his fingers, looking around, and cooing. He gives me millions of smiles in the morning and throughout the day and makes my heart overflow. We are incredibly lucky and blessed to have him in our lives.

He had a weight check last Monday and is now about 12 lbs and 23 inches!! Graham is such a little man, but growing amazingly well. I think about how teeny tiny and skinny he was when he was born. He’s getting heavy now lol! There are some cute little fat rolls forming! He’s in a phase where he won’t let us hold him like a baby anymore! I miss cuddles! I love that he’s growing, meeting milestones, and becoming more independent – but at the same time, it’s sad. Sometimes he looks like a little boy, not a baby! It’s like whoa, where did my little baby go?!

I mentioned in my last post that I started my first PPAF. Andy and I discussed TTC, and we are not ready to make any decisions regarding the possibility of future fertility treatments. I don’t know if we’ll ever go down that road again. We just want to enjoy our sweet boy. One thing we did decide upon, is not preventing pregnancy. We are going with the flow and letting nature take its course. If another miracle should come our way, we would feel amazingly blessed. I can’t even fathom that happening. It would blow my mind! It seems very unlikely, especially since I have so few eggs left.

Andy seems to want to try naturally. He was pretty insistent on lots of BD this cycle lol. I want to keep it as relaxed as possible. I mean, we’re on the same page though. We are enjoying each other and soaking up these precious moments with Graham. I will probably be testing monthly, unless AF shows first. If I somehow tested positive, I would need to start Lovenox and Prednisone. Right now, I’m taking Metformin, baby aspirin, and prenatals with extra Folate. Those meds are good for my diagnoses and overall health.